These have never really been a goal of mine, but I know that there are a lot of men who don’t mind an occasional romp that doesn’t lead to a relationship. Guys are more interested in quick sex, as a general rule. However, there are also many women who want sex without the commitment of a relationship. And, at some point in your dating life, you’ll probably run into what I term the reverse-payback. Essentially, you get emotionally involved with a girl you sleep with right off the bat, but as it turns out, she only wanted a romp in the hay, and she promptly dumps you.
If your target is to have casual sex with no ties to any particular girl, then you’re going to have to step up your energy – and your psychology. As I said, there are many women who are interested in the same thing, but they still want the same primary elements that other women want and demand: attraction, trust, and respect. They just want them in different quantities.
In order for her to dive in to this with you quickly, you have to be very aggressive with your teasing and your humor, as well as be very willing to move forward with your progression a lot quicker. You’ll want to go from wherever you are to more private surroundings as quickly as possible. The secret is to get her isolated so you can work with her one-on-one. You start by getting her away from other friends, then into a surrounding away from all other people. This has to be done in parallel with your intensification of your approach.
The ideal candidates for one-night stands are women who you have an instant chemistry with. Things just “click,” and you’re able to move ahead much faster than with a woman who has setup a lot of the roadblocks to your seduction. These women aren’t “easy” by any means they’re just ready for you. Every so often, these people come along and we can’t deny our gut-level attraction. Now, remember that these women are on the far side of the spectrum, the one that goes from “super easy” to “super frigid.” You still have to exercise caution and self-discipline along the way.
Handling a one-night stand is entirely up to you and your needs. I have known many people who started a good short-term romance from a one-nighter. Although you should observe that it is difficult to transition from a brief sexual fling into a more secure relationship, since you will have put the cart before the horse, so to speak. The foundation of most short- to long-term relationships is best created with a more prolonged period before you gratify your lusts.
The best way to handle things is to be very careful not to put out a false pretense at any point during the seduction. Do not lie or con your way into her pants or her bed! All of this information is to be used honorably, and using false pretenses to get laid is dishonorable, and you will suffer consequences. I’m not going to threaten you with bad Karma, but you should know that every action you take affects you and your life. Being a ‘player’ in the bad sense of the word will only come back to haunt you later.